Petite Paws
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On Feb 1 I responded to a cat, though the cat wasn't available anymore. The woman I was messaging with asked if I'm interested in any other cats, and I mention some other names but never got a reply anymore.
A week later I send a sad smiley and I get back an apology that she overlooked my message. She mentioned the cat I initially responded to is available again, and I'm overjoyed! At this point, I am basically thinking nothing could go wrong anymore and finally I got the cat I really wanted, and I'm sharing his pictures with friends and whatnot.
But from that day until today I was begging for any sort of information. Every question I asked went ignored. I asked if I said something wrong and I got she said she's just busy but on Saturday will have a lot of time, and she sent me already some questions. I answered then waited all weekend but: nothing. Sunday evening I message that I'd love to hear back. Monday morning I get a response that she didn't like one of my answers; she was worried that I don't know yet what I will do in my future.
When I answered that question on Friday, about if I will stay in Germany long-term, I knew answering truthfully would harm my chances, but I did not realise that it would completely cut off any opportunity. I had answered that I will stay in Germany for at least 3 more years, but after that I don't know yet. Then on Monday morning when I heard she didn't like my answer I tried to explain that I am from the Netherlands so I might go back there, but I will definitely never go further than Europe. I will always take my pets with me, as I have done before, so they will never be abandoned. I also (worded badly) said that I was at least honest knowing that answering that question honestly would probably hurt my chances, so at least I did not lie like some people might. I also asked jokingly if they also don't give cats to old people then as they might pass away soon, trying to draw a comparison. I did apologise for saying that immediately after. I wish I'd deleted the message instead in hinsight, rather than being transparent by leaving it there, and apologising.
Though I can read German and understand pretty well, speaking or typing it myself is still not something I am comfortable with. I use Google Translate to chat with Germans, and that mostly goes fine. Since I was not getting any of my questions answered, I thought maybe I should call, so I asked my boyfriend, who does speak fluently, to call and ask my question related to the transportation. He called the number while I was in a meeting and after I got back from my meeting, I got a bunch of messages from him and also one from you; that you cannot give us the cat, because you do not agree with my earlier message about not lying and with making my boyfriend "anonymously" call. What? I just asked him to call the number on the page so I could get my question answered. But apparently the number on the page was also the number of the woman I was talking to, so he called the same woman, and she completely misunderstood it as some malicious thing.
The next few hours I exchanged A LOT of messages with the woman I was talking to. I tried to explain everything, even showed screenshots as proof that all I wanted is for him to ask my question and I even told him to be honest about if you ask, to say that we already talked to someone from the team about a certain cat. I wish she was so talkative at any other point in the past 2 weeks, but alas. The last thing she said is that they don't give cats to people that might leave the country because then they cannot rehome the cat anymore in the future if that is needed. Suddenly a very different reason than the ones she'd been giving before.
I feel like I am being punished for being honest. I feel like she took this opportunity from me based on a miscommunication, that even after I cleared up, she refused to try to understand at all. I felt I was unwanted the whole time I was talking to this person. It feels they do not actually want any cats to be adopted.
